Category: Self development
How to re-identify yourself again after change….
Do you often put yourself to the back of the priorotiy list when it comes to others? Are you someone who has life responsibilities where you have to care for others so it’s hard to have time for you? Has a change occurred that has changed you and your identity?
Change is always hard and can be difficult to cope with, even a positive change takes time as it’s still new!
The first top tip when your feeling a bit lost and not sure of who you are anymore, or who you want to be, is to look out for clues. They will be everywhere you just need to be in a place to capture and remember them when they come your way…..
The clues are normally things that you are drawn to, activity, people, tasks, places, colours, sounds, environments, pictures in magazines or on-line, Pinterest, following research, stories, fabrics, books, clothes, pictures, views etc these are all things that you might be drawn to and might just give you a clue to what your new found identity might be, if you want it!
The mind works best with lots of things to reference as evidence so use these clues, to keep you motivated and not to give up on finding yourself, and creating project you!
If you find yourself out walking and are drawn to a particular area and view or place, that’s because it connects with you in someway and so it’s great to add that into your lifestyle as it is something that calls out to you.
You might find these places to be things that start to unlock your creative side, for example the places you visit might make you want to take photos of the scenery, or create paintings of the views, or collect things such as leaves and flowers for pressing. Recreate what you love in your home or if it’s gardening choose the plants that you are attracted to for their colour or texture etc.
Gather all the things that are clues for you and all the clues to help you then look at your identity more.
ask yourself…
1,what is it about each thing you have collected, seen, visited, describe what you are drawn to and like about each thing
2, how does it make you feel
3, do you want more of this in your life, yes or no
4, why? What does it bring or do for you?
This is the start of you slowly re-evaluating things, gaining identity again which will lead to you then taking steps and look at areas that are priorities.
Some people find it hard to find inspiration, you need to dig deep at times. Making up a new routine to help support yourself to become inspired again to have things that you enjoy and are drawn to as part of as many days in the week as possible. Make time for me time.
Remember project you is the best thing you could ever work on! The happier you are the better your life will be!
Key steps to success in your self-development
Brain Biscuits Coaching, key steps to success in your self-development!
1, Have self-awareness – The only thing stopping you is you! Clear your mind of all the mind chatter you have and any limiting beliefs that are holding you back! Get rid of as many of them (limiting beliefs) as you can. Find out what motivates you! Channel your empowering beliefs.
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/29/motivation-muscle
2, Do something challenging – Allow new opportunities, say “yes” to more things. Whenever possible just try things that you were once fearful of and instead of panicking, enjoy being stretched. Push the barriers of your comfort zone, stretch yourself, use all your skill set and qualities/attributes. Remember to “seize the day! Set goals and make things happen.
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/30/smash-out-of-the-comfort-zone/
3, Do something different- How do you know you don’t like something if you haven’t tried it. Have a go, try new activities, meet new people, be inspired.
4, Be determined – Determination is key, give it your all as this will keep you going when life throws a few curve balls. Determination is what will keep you on track, you only fail if you don’t get back up!
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/28/the-game-changer/
5, Visualise it – see it happening, seeing is believing.
6, Knowledge really is power – read more, learn more, develop new skills, ask questions, find answers enjoy fuelling your mind. Make space to do this!
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/21/find-your-creative-space/
7, Imagine it – imagine yourself already where you want to be, how great that will feel and how would this enhance your life.
8, Be Creative – use all the creativity you have to create what you want, make it happen!
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/26/your-creative-diet/
9, Don’t forget to Pause- take a moment, see all that is around you, use these moments to look for inspiration https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/25/dont-forget-your-moment-to-pause/
10, Breathe- take a minute, try square breathing, it is a great start for you to re-centre and clear your mind.
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/21/square-breathing-exercise-for-better-mindfulness/
11, Make Space and Time- Time for what makes you happy is worth scheduling into your day, positivity feeds off positivity. The right environment is also key, as it can bring out the best in you and fuel your senses for peak performance.
https://brainbiscuitscoaching.com/2018/07/01/declutter-make-space-for-you/
The “Game Changer”
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There are moments in life where things happen out of our control and consequently things change, if not everything!
Unexpected situations, circumstances, and a series of events that are traumatic, are typically what causes such changes.
Possible events are an unexpected health issue, family circumstances changing, a trauma such as a breakdown in relationships or a loss.
Moments like this can change your life. Your beliefs, your emotional state, your willpower; your personal identity becomes lost.
At these moments in life, it can really feel like life is out to get you!
But one day after these events, whenever it feels right, your state of mind will hit a point where something inside of you reignites.
This is your “enough is enough “moment. This is your “I’m ready now, ready to take back my life” moment!
You ask yourself, what do I want now?
When you’re ready for this, this is the ideal time for you to surround yourself in a community that understand what you have been through and people that inspire and encourage you.
Through these actions you become a “game changer “and all the things that happened, and all that you have been through, changes your perspective on life.
Without all of this you would not have the empathy and will power that you have right now.
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Mental health, stress and your resilience!
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We all have mental health just as we have physical health however, it is not always something we look at regularly supporting and training, or exercising and reviewing. It would be wonderful to think we soon will be in a world where we could openly ask each other ” how you feeling today and how’s your mind”, without it being uncomfortable.
We all have those moments in life where things can cause us to feel lower in our mood. This often affects our mental health. Times of this “low mood “ or any ongoing sadness can happen to any of us at any time, feeling as if it comes upon us without any warning. It is important to recognise your own personal triggers. It’s important to ask yourself
1,what are my triggers?
2,What sends my stress levels over the edge?
3, Is there any changes you can make to help you manage these things?
4, what helps you to keep going when you feel like this?
The triggers could be anything, such as a memorable date, topics you are sensitive to and don’t want to face yet, family, relationships, self-limiting beliefs, traumas, life events, medical reasons, life pressure, public speaking, anything!
It is so important to take the time to look at any trigger patterning you have. By looking at triggers you can possibly unlock a resilience strategy for yourself that just might help you cope better when you are in need.
Emotional stress can be really overwhelming, it can impact both your physical and mental state. Strategies to support your resilience can work wonders in helping you through this time, along with of course any support groups, professional outreach etc available to you.
Examples of resilience you can use when this happens are things such as supportive building blocks to help manage your stress levels. Some of mine are below:
- When life is busy I have to make sure I have me time
- Personal head space-time, walk, read, chill out somewhere away from everything to just clear your mind (a pause moment)
- Something that is physical such as sport; for me my main choice of activity to spend my “me” time on is running
- Something that makes you feel a sense of belonging such as socialising with the right community
- Things I enjoy, things that make me happy, as happiness is so important! Such as hobbies (Creative Diet)
- I try to goal set my activities into my weekly plans, looking at how I can review and improve and identify the priorities I have. These keep me on track and both my physical and mental health are in better shape for it (Muscle Motivation)
- Predict my stress triggers. When I know something is coming up that is likely to cause stress good planning is key. I look at what I can do to manage it as best I can, and what best supports me
- Make sure you tell someone. If I am worried about things or stressed, just saying things out loud to someone can make a huge difference as you then own your true feelings
- Choose to hang out with people on your level. Someone you can text, call, meet and have that support with
- I ensure I take regular pause moments; so important!
- Even when you don’t feel like it connect with the world daily so you don’t become withdrawn.
Remember you are often not alone with these feelings and it is so important to tell someone. Don’t suffer in silence, it will only get worse.
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