accountability, beliefs, life style, lifestyle, Mental health, New beginnings, out with old in with new, Self development, Uncategorized, weightloss, Well-being, wellbeing

Stop blaming, start positive Aiming! …,,,

This is a hard subject at times for us all, Blame.

Blaming things, people, life for where you are, unfortunately leads to no movement forward. When we find ourselves really wanting to do something or really not wanting to do something, the reality is, your the one making the decision, making and taking the move forward or not in life.

It’s very hard to be true to yourself and honest and say, you no what I can make this happen or not for myself, I am the one driving the steering wheel, regardless of what life trows your way, you are choosing how to deal or not deal with it, right here right now.

An example is let’s say you have decided to follow a goal of yours, this goal might be that you want to be your version on healthy, which is to not to drink alcohol and watch what you eat in regards to processed foods and your goal is to change how you currently feel in your own skin. You feel the foods make you feel bad and that you feel alcohol makes you feel unmotivated for your new exercise routine, which you are following as part of your overall goal.

The situation you then find yourself in is that you have been on track now for just over 4 weeks, your starting to feel so much better mentally and physically, getting results in your moods, energy levels and seeing the physical positive changes of your efforts, your then invited to a social event and there will be the foods you want to avoid and wine, cocktails and things you feel hinder you and your goal right now, what do you do?

A) Do you decided to have a night off from your regime, that’s fine you have decided I want this stuff this evening so I will.

B) Do you not go because you don’t want to put yourself in this position when you have just started to make the steps to the goal and it’s to early on for you to be in this position?

C) Do you go but not drink alcohol and have your meal before you go so your are not Hungary for those food items when there?

The answer is all of them are right, which ever you want, you decide you take control of the decision and own it.

Then you don’t blame anything or the social event for why things go wrong or right because you are deciding what you want to do how you want to do it and you are fully in control and accountable for you and your actions.

When you start being positive In your decisions and accountable you then don’t blame anyone or others for where you are, because their is no negative spin on you making very conscious decisions. You either want something or you don’t, you either do it or you don’t. You go or don’t go and everything still moves on and progresses for you if you want it to.

Accountability is such a powerful tool, to be accountable is such a strength, it allows you to have boundaries for where you want your goals to sit, move and shape, face what you feel is where you are at, where you are going and have realistic mindset those goals and keeping yourself in check.

Top key tips to ensure you stop blaming and start positive aiming, towards your goals:

1) Attitude, start looking at the way you talk about things, do you find yourself blaming and shaming things, circumstances and people for we’re you are today ? A movement forward would be the next time you go to do this,try to stop yourself and instead support yourself into a new more positive mental attitude, say to your self, do you want this? Or not? When you start having a more negative spin on things try to use more positive language and actions towards yourself and your steps. Aims and goal, be your own cheerleader and prep talk yourself out of what you don’t want to happen, remind yourself that you can do this you can stay on track and tenner what and why you are doing this all for in the first place.

2) Focus, keep where your heading fresh in your mind, think of how you will feel when you make the changes and goals happen for yourself how amazing will this feel, then also think about if you didn’t change anything at all how would you feel, let this motivate you further, choose the direction you want and keep focused , you will get there which ever you choose, change or no change.

3) Admitting where your at, what’s working, what’s not working and be really true to yourself about what you want and don’t want. Work out what your strength’s and weaknesses are and plan for success and drop out things which you have admitted do not help you! Things that do not help you and change the approach so you can’t fail.

4) Stop self sabotage; when things start going right and you either feel a little outside your comfort zone or you become scared or fearful of your successes and change remember that old habits die hard, don’t start self sabotage try to prepare for these times and coach yourself out of doing this, remind yourself, its ok I feel scared this is new and think of all the good you have done to get here right now and all the great things your goals will lead you to, it’s worth staying on track. Work on yourself, your fears and find ways of facing and understanding what can and has held you back and when you feel this starting again to happen you take control and stop it taking control of you. It’s important to get support and help if you need to don’t let anything or anyone stop you from your successes, it takes a great and real strength to face things.

5) Excuses, leave them all behind, accept you are the one who is in the driving seat and making the decision to do or not do something. Don’t blame anyone or anything else you are in control, so take control of the direction you are going.

The bottom line is invest your energy in yourself, learn to let go or draw a line of anything that’s holding you back and be open to the fact that it could be you holding yourself back, blocking the way. you have the key to unlock your life and start aiming towards your future the future you want. You just need to believe in yourself more, remember the mind is one or the most powerful tools you have.

Identity, lifestyle, personal development, Self development, Uncategorized

“The power hour”

With the clocks going back in the uk recently by an hour, I found myself feeling the effects of how much having an extra hour can make!

I thought that I should look to use an hour a week wisely; a “power hour”!

This hour will give me time to sit down and sort through the things I want achieve; get done for the week ahead; and get super organised.

There really is alot to be said about having 60 minutes of pure planning.

So my “power hour” I have decided needs to be on a day where it is practical and works well for me. I decided to go for a Friday as this is a good day for enough time to plan and get things ready for the following week ahead. It’s important that you make your “power hour” work for you and on your most practical day too!

During this hour I start with a note pad and pen or anything you want to use for getting things written down and of course a good thinking space.

The first part is to clear your mind of mind-chatter. Then every day thoughts of to-do tasks, they need addressing first to allow you to be really focused. Start with getting those shopping lists and diary dates sorted and out of your mind. This allows you to move on to the next part.

This is the powerful part as this means you write down things that you can start to make happen.

Its then time look at your aims for the week ahead;

start with;

next week I want to ….. and right down 2 or 3 things you really want to do or get done that will allow you to feel you have moved forward from where things currently are.

This could be something like, finally clearing out that cupboard you have, which is a mess. This style of task has a domino affect because this task being done leads to there then being space you didn’t have and you can use this to store the things you love to use or for hobbies, such as baking, crafts or more storage to feel organised.

Maybe a reading library space, the possibilities are endless if you want to get creative and also based on the location of the cupboard.

This task leads to measurable results and creates a positive shift for your living environment.

Now the second part. This part is to look at another area in your life.

“what are you doing that challenges you in a positive way? What’s on the cards for the week ahead?

what are you currently working on to keep you progressing personally. It’s so important to feel challenged in the right way and regularly.

So this part of the list is where you write down things you wont to do to progress in your personal development at the moment, such as trying new things. This might be a job, learning new skill or craft. Join a social group and don’t be afraid of trying new things out!

Just think the worse that could happen is you try it and decide it’s not for you but at least you’ll never be left wondering what if!

This type of challenge can also be layering on anything you are currently doing that you want to step up such as running further distance, gaining a further qualification, basically anything that means you step up your game as long as you keep things progressing. Make it fun and something that leaves you feeling motivated in your life and of course happy!

Now the third part,

What can you change?

This needs to be something that is not working at the moment or makes you feel negative.

This maybe a feeling that you are failing at something and that if it was working correctly it could really bring a lot to your life.

An example might result in pro action to gym attendance. You may currently have set unreasonable and unrealistic timings, which don’t work. You maybe not motivated, to tired or your other life commitments get in the way at the current evenings dedicated to this.

Therefore this is your area to change, set a plan of action of how you are going to make this work!

This could be trying a morning workout on a day where there is less pressure maybe a weekend, a morning on your route to work or during your lunch hour.

Try the change of plan out during the week ahead; remember nothing is set in stone and you can make a change to make it work!

Anything that you are doing but currently no-longer want to do, is suitable ditch it! whenever your ready to of course and find something better to use your time.

Make sure you log all your changes and steps you have made as it’s so rewarding to see the journey you have been on and how far you have come!

remember “every step counts”

Breaks, lifestyle, New you, Steps to success, Taking time, Thinking space, Travel

How to take real “Time off” from the normal routine.

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Why is it when it comes to having time away (a time that should recharge us), we often return and quickly feel like we never left! 

I wanted to try to explore ways of getting more from my short (1-2 day) holiday breaks away with the family so that they refuel me.  

I want those breaks to have a lasting effect, to feel the benefit when I return to normal routine.

So, I did just this and headed to the coast!  I took some things I love such as a camera for taking photos of the scenery, a notebook and pen to write down my thoughts and any ideas that come to me, and I took my workout gear.

One of my strategies for this break to really work, was to take myself away from anything that had a screen, for me a break from social media and the phone was key to really relaxing; no Wi-Fi, no clock watching, no tv on, no rushing round. This change allowed me to take “real-time” off from normal life. My time was spent doing the things I enjoy, allowed me time to pause and take everything in. 

I was able to do activities that allowed me to feel really calm  and positive, and I had emotional space to notice how much that environment was influencing my mood and behaviour. I felt so much happier and relaxed!

This time allowed me to see what my life can be like if I make certain changes when I return home. For example, managing my workload, looking at the time spent on tasks that are not really benefiting me, and limiting my screen use. I could focus on what I *want* to spend more of my limited spare time doing.

I took this opportunity of time away to start one of my goals; to eat a lot cleaner food (nothing artificial, only natural sugars).  While there I really enjoyed buying food sourced from the local farm shops. I cut back my caffeine intake too, as it seemed the right time.

I love being by the sea and it was very clear to me how quickly this new environment had such a positive impact.

This time and space allowed me to feel recharged for the first time in ages; I had a real break! 

keys to successful breaks

 

1, Choose an environment somewhere that’s the opposite to your home one, or to a place you really want to go to.

 

2, Cut back on “screen time” social media, phone calls, emails etc as much as you can.

 

3, Take a note of how the different places you visit whilst there made you feel. Was there anything that you felt some inspiration from? Drawn to? Want to now do? If so don’t forget to add them to some of your SMART goal lists.

 

4, Think about any new good habits whilst there you could bring back with you to include into your normal routine, such as eating better, getting more active, planning more “me” time doing things you enjoy.

 

5, Make sure you pack things that make you happy and are a positive way to occupy your time.  Examples of this: reading materials, craft project stuff, walking gear, workout gear, notebook and pen etc. It’s great to try these activities in new surroundings.

6, stop clock watching, don’t rush around, you doing need to do this here so make the most of this.

7, every time you go to do some activity whilst away, just ask yourself do you want to do this or do you feel you have to, and try to do the I want to do this, over the I feel you should, this is for you this time. Can any tasks wait till you return, if so leave it for then this is your break.

9, pack ready for this break, take the things you have wanted to read, do, make but have not made the time and put them in the case ready, preparation is key.

10, take pictures, remember this time and use this when you return to remind you on where you want to be and the true aims you have in your life when back to normal routine.

Enjoy trying new things and all the different environments on offer.  Look at how you react to the new surroundings and explore how it makes you feel and behave.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

life coaching, goal setting, New beginnings, personal development

Smash out of the comfort zone!


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Day to day life can lead us all to fall into a rut where we find it harder to leave our comfort zone. This is because the comfort zone is predictable, safe and full of routine.  If  life was simply about living in the comfort zone, imagine how boring it would be. Imagine If we didn’t explore, travel, research, create and design just how little we would know about the amazing world we live in and all that is around us.

It is so important to strike your own personal balance between what is comfortable for you and what challenges and stretches you. It’s important to try to make sure you do “come out of the comfort zone” and try something that makes you feel excited.

Doing something that challenges you regularly will fill your world with excitement, stimulation, ambition and drive. This is also where most goals are reached!

The Bottom line is…….. do you want to wake up every day feeling that you are just existing, or do you want to wake up everyday and feel alive?

beliefs, Identity, lifestyle, Mental health, New beginnings, New you, personal development, Self development

The “Game Changer”

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There are moments in life where things happen out of our control and consequently things change, if not everything!

 Unexpected situations, circumstances, and a series of events that are traumatic, are typically what causes such changes.

 Possible events are an unexpected health issue, family circumstances changing, a trauma such as a breakdown in relationships or a loss.

 Moments like this can change your life.  Your beliefs, your emotional state, your willpower; your personal identity becomes lost. 

 At these moments in life, it can really feel like life is out to get you!  

 But one day after these events, whenever it feels right, your state of mind will hit a point where something inside of you reignites.

 This is your “enough is enough “moment. This is your “I’m ready now, ready to take back my life” moment!

 

You ask yourself, what do I want now?

 

When you’re ready for this, this is the ideal time for you to surround yourself in a community that understand what you have been through and people that inspire and encourage you.

 

Through these actions you become a “game changer “and all the things that happened, and all that you have been through, changes your perspective on life.

 

Without all of this you would not have the empathy and will power that you have right now. 

 

 

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