There are moments in life where things happen out of our control and consequently things change, if not everything!
Unexpected situations, circumstances, and a series of events that are traumatic, are typically what causes such changes.
Possible events are an unexpected health issue, family circumstances changing, a trauma such as a breakdown in relationships or a loss.
Moments like this can change your life. Your beliefs, your emotional state, your willpower; your personal identity becomes lost.
At these moments in life, it can really feel like life is out to get you!
But one day after these events, whenever it feels right, your state of mind will hit a point where something inside of you reignites.
This is your “enough is enough “moment. This is your “I’m ready now, ready to take back my life” moment!
You ask yourself, what do I want now?
When you’re ready for this, this is the ideal time for you to surround yourself in a community that understand what you have been through and people that inspire and encourage you.
Through these actions you become a “game changer “and all the things that happened, and all that you have been through, changes your perspective on life.
Without all of this you would not have the empathy and will power that you have right now.
A “pause moment” so you can see all the beautiful things around you.
Our lives can very often be lived at 100 miles an hour and moments can be missed.
We recommend whenever you can to make time to just connect to the world around you
(your pause moment).
This moment “your pause” is so you don’t miss the wonderful things life offers you for free daily, such as nature. All these things help inspire you and give you sensory feedback and fuel your Neuro-linguistic programming – what you see, hear and feel etc.
These moments, when enjoyed fully really do remind us that “the best things in life are free” and make us truly feel alive.
The key is to learn how to ensure you don’t miss it, from the flowers, trees to the sky and all the visual variations it has! Make this time frequently (daily) for your “pause” allowing you the time to take in all that is there for you to enjoy and could really inspire you.
An exercise to start with;
Tomorrow start with your garden (and then you could widen this to the local park, the nearest beach, forest or route into work) and make a mental log of all the things you see around you and how they make you feel? What sounds did you hear, did you have a favourite part to this moment? Then enjoy this visual menu, maybe event capture it with a photo.
Here’s one of my most recent favourite pause moments:
Don’t forget to look to the sky as there really are no limits! While you are there why not reach for a star or two!
We all have mental health just as we have physical health however, it is not always something we look at regularly supporting and training, or exercising and reviewing. It would be wonderful to think we soon will be in a world where we could openly ask each other ” how you feeling today and how’s your mind”, without it being uncomfortable.
We all have those moments in life where things can cause us to feel lower in our mood. This often affects our mental health. Times of this “low mood “ or any ongoing sadness can happen to any of us at any time, feeling as if it comes upon us without any warning. It is important to recognise your own personal triggers. It’s important to ask yourself
1,what are my triggers?
2,What sends my stress levels over the edge?
3, Is there any changes you can make to help you manage these things?
4, what helps you to keep going when you feel like this?
The triggers could be anything, such as a memorable date, topics you are sensitive to and don’t want to face yet, family, relationships, self-limiting beliefs, traumas, life events, medical reasons, life pressure, public speaking, anything!
It is so important to take the time to look at any trigger patterning you have. By looking at triggers you can possibly unlock a resilience strategy for yourself that just might help you cope better when you are in need.
Emotional stress can be really overwhelming, it can impact both your physical and mental state. Strategies to support your resilience can work wonders in helping you through this time, along with of course any support groups, professional outreach etc available to you.
Examples of resilience you can use when this happens are things such as supportive building blocks to help manage your stress levels. Some of mine are below:
When life is busy I have to make sure I have me time
Personal head space-time, walk, read, chill out somewhere away from everything to just clear your mind (a pause moment)
Something that is physical such as sport; for me my main choice of activity to spend my “me” time on is running
Something that makes you feel a sense of belonging such as socialising with the right community
Things I enjoy, things that make me happy, as happiness is so important! Such as hobbies (Creative Diet)
I try to goal set my activities into my weekly plans, looking at how I can review and improve and identify the priorities I have. These keep me on track and both my physical and mental health are in better shape for it (Muscle Motivation)
Predict my stress triggers. When I know something is coming up that is likely to cause stress good planning is key. I look at what I can do to manage it as best I can, and what best supports me
Make sure you tell someone. If I am worried about things or stressed, just saying things out loud to someone can make a huge difference as you then own your true feelings
Choose to hang out with people on your level. Someone you can text, call, meet and have that support with
I ensure I take regular pause moments; so important!
Even when you don’t feel like it connect with the world daily so you don’t become withdrawn.
Remember you are often not alone with these feelings and it is so important to tell someone. Don’t suffer in silence, it will only get worse.
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