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2019 the “You Year”

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The “You Year”when it comes to planning your new start for 2019!

The new year is almost here and it’s the perfect opportunity to make it the “you year”; find out who you want to be and make it happen!

This new year make every step count; remember goals don’t have to be too Big to be as equally important!

Remember perseverance also shows your really invested and truly want what your aiming for rather than “I should be doing this but don’t really want to”.

Keep the path true to you!

Keeping visuals on your “you year” to motivate you. Help from photos or that item of clothing you want to wear to identify yourself. You might want to have words to help describe you; such as active, healthy, happy.

Success step examples might be;

Keep a diary, have a tick-off chart for each day you did what you set out to do;

An object such as, “That dress or suit” hanging up you want to fit again and feel the best you can be;

That fun dance class that doesn’t feel like exercise but is helping you be more active;

The walk or hike with friends, which means your socialising and being active all in one go;

Have a list of new things to try, projects you want to do round the house to make you feel productive and organised.

Keep this new year fun and interesting, try new things, new activities and visit places you haven’t before, keep things motivational and moving throughout 2019!

Remember something that challenges you positively both mentally and physically is important as it links in your mind and body healthy.

Surround yourself with people that boost you to want to succeed and feel good about who you are. Take part in activities that motivate you and always have something that are also just for you “me time”

Create a list of days out for when you have free time so your ready and prepared to max the use of this time and go and do something positive and planed; such as walks in parks/gardens you may you have annual access to and surrounded yourself in some good “old free fresh air” in natural surroundings of the great outdoors.

Another really good tip is, when your in a good place ask yourself what helps you on the days where you motivation slips a little, then make note of the “go-to’s” that spur you on!

When looking at the new year 2019, remind yourself of all the steps you have already taken to get to where you are!

I love when a new year comes around and letting go of what has been and cant be changed and looking ahead at the new beginning ahead.

My diary has a clear page and a fresh start! So when it comes to the new year I have realistic but motivational goals for myself and I can’t wait.

I work out what I want to focus on by working out what are my 4 core areas of my life right now and write a positive shift I would like to make in each area of my life.

I wish you all a happy “You” year 2019!

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“The power hour”

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With the clocks going back in the uk recently by an hour, I found myself feeling the effects of how much having an extra hour can make!

I thought that I should look to use an hour a week wisely; a “power hour”!

This hour will give me time to sit down and sort through the things I want achieve; get done for the week ahead; and get super organised.

There really is alot to be said about having 60 minutes of pure planning.

So my “power hour” I have decided needs to be on a day where it is practical and works well for me. I decided to go for a Friday as this is a good day for enough time to plan and get things ready for the following week ahead. It’s important that you make your “power hour” work for you and on your most practical day too!

During this hour I start with a note pad and pen or anything you want to use for getting things written down and of course a good thinking space.

The first part is to clear your mind of mind-chatter. Then every day thoughts of to-do tasks, they need addressing first to allow you to be really focused. Start with getting those shopping lists and diary dates sorted and out of your mind. This allows you to move on to the next part.

This is the powerful part as this means you write down things that you can start to make happen.

Its then time look at your aims for the week ahead;

start with;

next week I want to ….. and right down 2 or 3 things you really want to do or get done that will allow you to feel you have moved forward from where things currently are.

This could be something like, finally clearing out that cupboard you have, which is a mess. This style of task has a domino affect because this task being done leads to there then being space you didn’t have and you can use this to store the things you love to use or for hobbies, such as baking, crafts or more storage to feel organised.

Maybe a reading library space, the possibilities are endless if you want to get creative and also based on the location of the cupboard.

This task leads to measurable results and creates a positive shift for your living environment.

Now the second part. This part is to look at another area in your life.

“what are you doing that challenges you in a positive way? What’s on the cards for the week ahead?

what are you currently working on to keep you progressing personally. It’s so important to feel challenged in the right way and regularly.

So this part of the list is where you write down things you wont to do to progress in your personal development at the moment, such as trying new things. This might be a job, learning new skill or craft. Join a social group and don’t be afraid of trying new things out!

Just think the worse that could happen is you try it and decide it’s not for you but at least you’ll never be left wondering what if!

This type of challenge can also be layering on anything you are currently doing that you want to step up such as running further distance, gaining a further qualification, basically anything that means you step up your game as long as you keep things progressing. Make it fun and something that leaves you feeling motivated in your life and of course happy!

Now the third part,

What can you change?

This needs to be something that is not working at the moment or makes you feel negative.

This maybe a feeling that you are failing at something and that if it was working correctly it could really bring a lot to your life.

An example might result in pro action to gym attendance. You may currently have set unreasonable and unrealistic timings, which don’t work. You maybe not motivated, to tired or your other life commitments get in the way at the current evenings dedicated to this.

Therefore this is your area to change, set a plan of action of how you are going to make this work!

This could be trying a morning workout on a day where there is less pressure maybe a weekend, a morning on your route to work or during your lunch hour.

Try the change of plan out during the week ahead; remember nothing is set in stone and you can make a change to make it work!

Anything that you are doing but currently no-longer want to do, is suitable ditch it! whenever your ready to of course and find something better to use your time.

Make sure you log all your changes and steps you have made as it’s so rewarding to see the journey you have been on and how far you have come!

remember “every step counts”

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Ahead of world Mental Health day 10th October,Mental health, stress and your resilience!

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We all have mental health just as we have physical health however, it is not always something we look at regularly supporting and training, or exercising and reviewing.  It would be wonderful to think we soon will be in a world where we could openly ask each other ” how you feeling today and how’s your mind”, without it being uncomfortable.

We all have those moments in life where things can cause us to feel lower in our mood. This often affects our mental health.  Times of this “low mood “ or any ongoing sadness can happen to any of us at any time, feeling as if it comes upon us without any warning.   It is important to recognise your own personal triggers.  It’s important to ask yourself

1,what are my triggers?

2,What sends  my stress levels over the edge?

3, Is there any changes you can make to help you manage these things?

4, what helps you to keep going  when you feel like this?

The triggers could be anything, such as a memorable date, topics you are sensitive to and don’t want to face yet, family, relationships, self-limiting beliefs, traumas, life events, medical reasons, life pressure, public speaking, anything!

It is so important to take the time to look at any trigger patterning you have. By looking at triggers you can possibly unlock a resilience strategy for yourself that just might help you cope better when you are in need.

Emotional stress can be really overwhelming, it can impact both your physical and mental state.  Strategies to support your resilience can work wonders in helping you through this time, along with of course any support groups, professional outreach etc available to you.

Examples of resilience you can use when this happens are things such as supportive building blocks to help manage your stress levels.  Some of mine are below:

  • When life is busy I have to make sure I  have me time
  • Personal head space-time, walk, read, chill out somewhere away from everything to just clear your mind (a pause moment)
  • Something that is physical such as sport; for me my main choice of activity to spend my “me” time on is running
  • Something that makes you feel a sense of belonging such as socialising with the right community
  •  Things I enjoy, things that make me happy, as happiness is so important!  Such as hobbies (Creative Diet)
  • I try to goal set my activities into my weekly plans, looking at how I can review and improve and identify the priorities I have. These keep me on track and both my physical and mental health are in better shape for it (Muscle Motivation)
  • Predict my stress triggers.  When I know something is coming up that is likely to cause stress good planning is key.  I look at what I can do to manage it as best I can, and what best supports me
  •  Make sure you tell someone.  If I am worried about things or stressed, just saying things out loud to someone can make a huge difference as you then own your true feelings
  • Choose to hang out with people on your level.  Someone you can text, call, meet and have that support with
  • I ensure I take regular pause moments; so important!
  • Even when you don’t feel like it connect with the world daily so you don’t become withdrawn.

Remember you are often not alone with these feelings and it is so important to tell someone. Don’t suffer in silence, it will only get worse.

Identity, life coaching, goal setting, lifestyle, Mental health, New beginnings, New you, personal development, Running, Self development, Steps to success, Uncategorized, Well-being

How to re-identify yourself again after change….

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Do you often put yourself to the back of the priorotiy list when it comes to others?  Are you someone who has life responsibilities where you have to care for others so it’s hard to have time for you?  Has a change occurred that has changed you and your identity?

Change is always hard and can be difficult to cope with, even a positive change takes time as it’s still new!

The first top tip when your feeling a bit lost and not sure of who you are anymore, or who you want to be, is to look out for clues. They will be everywhere you just need to be in a place to capture and remember them when they come your way…..

The clues are normally things that you are drawn to, activity, people, tasks, places, colours, sounds, environments, pictures in magazines or on-line, Pinterest, following research, stories, fabrics, books, clothes, pictures, views etc these are all things that you might be drawn to and might just give you a clue to what your new found identity might be, if you want it!

The mind works best with lots of things to reference as evidence so use these clues, to keep you motivated and not to give up on finding yourself, and creating project you!

If you find yourself out walking and are drawn to a particular area and view or place,  that’s because it connects with you in someway and so it’s great to add that into your lifestyle as it is something that calls out to you.

You might find these places to be things that start to unlock your creative side, for example the places you visit might make you want to take photos of the scenery, or create paintings of the views, or collect things such as leaves and flowers for pressing.  Recreate what you love in your home or if it’s gardening choose the plants that you are attracted to for their colour or texture etc.

Gather all the things that are clues for you and all the clues to help you then look at your identity more.

ask yourself…

1,what is it about each thing you have collected, seen, visited, describe what you are drawn to and like about each thing

2, how does it make you feel

3, do you want more of this in your life, yes or no

4, why?  What does it bring or do for you?

This is the start of you slowly re-evaluating things, gaining identity again which will lead to you then taking steps and look at areas that are priorities.

Some people find it hard to find inspiration, you need to dig deep at times. Making up a new routine to help support yourself to become inspired again to have things that you enjoy and are drawn to as part of as many days in the week as possible. Make time for me time.

Remember project you is the best thing you could ever work on! The happier you are the better your life will be!