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Mental health awareness week!2020

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Mental health awareness week has fallen at a time where many of us are in lockdown or just starting to come out of it! to a new way of being and living until changes and vaccines are hopefully made!

This is a time where we all will feel a change in our mental health, wether we are fully aware of it or not. It’s a time to be kind to Ourselves and listen to our needs especially if we feel we need support, space or some me time.

We all have mental health just as we have physical health however, it is not always something we look at regularly supporting and training, or exercising and reviewing. It would be wonderful to think we soon will be in a world where we could openly ask each other ” how you feeling today and how’s your mind”, without it being uncomfortable. We all have those moments in life where things can cause us to feel lower in our mood. This often affects our mental health. Times of this “low mood “ or any ongoing sadness can happen to any of us at any time, feeling as if it comes upon us without any warning. It is important to recognise your own personal triggers. It’s important to ask yourself

1,what are my triggers?

2,What sends my stress levels over the edge?

3, Is there any changes you can make to help you manage these things?

4, what helps you to keep going when you feel like this?

The triggers could be anything, such as a memorable date, topics you are sensitive to and don’t want to face yet, family, relationships, self-limiting beliefs, traumas, life events, medical reasons, life pressure, public speaking, anything! It is so important to take the time to look at any trigger patterning you have.

By looking at triggers you can possibly unlock a resilience strategy for yourself that just might help you cope better when you are in need.

Emotional stress can be really overwhelming, it can impact both your physical and mental state. Strategies to support your resilience can work wonders in helping you through this time, along with of course any support groups, professional outreach etc available to you.

Examples of resilience you can use when this happens are things such as supportive building blocks to help manage your stress levels. Some of mine are below:

  • When life is busy I have to make sure I  have me time
  • Personal head space-time, walk, read, chill out somewhere away from everything to just clear your mind (a pause moment)
  • Something that is physical such as sport; for me my main choice of activity to spend my “me” time on is running
  • Something that makes you feel a sense of belonging such as socialising with the right community
  •  Things I enjoy, things that make me happy, as happiness is so important!  Such as hobbies (Creative Diet)
  • I try to goal set my activities into my weekly plans, looking at how I can review and improve and identify the priorities I have. These keep me on track and both my physical and mental health are in better shape for it (Muscle Motivation)
  • Predict my stress triggers.  When I know something is coming up that is likely to cause stress good planning is key.  I look at what I can do to manage it as best I can, and what best supports me
  •  Make sure you tell someone.  If I am worried about things or stressed, just saying things out loud to someone can make a huge difference as you then own your true feelings
  • Choose to hang out with people on your level.  Someone you can text, call, meet and have that support with
  • I ensure I take regular pause moments; so important!
  • Even when you don’t feel like it connect with the world daily so you don’t become withdrawn.

Remember you are often not alone with these feelings and it is so important to tell someone. Don’t suffer in silence, it will only get worse.

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Don’t let the past hold you back!

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Everyone goes through things in life everyone has a past, some good some bad and you can use these past experiences to channel anything from it that you want. Things that you learnt, things that were positive and helped you grow, grow into who you are today and helped build your resilience for life. But please remember the past doesn’t have to define you, unless you want it too! It’s the past for a reason don’t let it write your future, you be the narrator! Things might be tough and get hard at times but you can still change tomorrow, you can make it better even if just a small step in the direction you want, this step no matter how small is then the starting point of you taking control and not letting anything or anyone hold you back, back from being you!

You can spend the rest of your life blaming the past for how you are now and why things are how they are or you can give yourself an opportunity and see that it’s not to late !to make a new future and change your current story, write a new exciting chapter one that you want, that you choose and finally enjoy and own your life.

It’s not that we should forget what’s happened but it’s knowing that what happened is past tense and doesn’t mean things can’t change and be better,live and work towards a future, your future.

Don’t be scared to live a life that when you look back you can say whatever life chucked your way you did all you could to have the life you wanted, regret free!

If the past experiences you have been through still eat you up and affect you negatively or physically then be honest with yourself, find and get support this will help you to address the things that keep bothering you so that you then can move forward once and for all. I know it’s hard but don’t be frightened it will be the best thing for your future addressing what is holding it back!

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Want to make it your year! Give it some H.E.A.R.T!

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If you really want something, I mean really want it to happen then give it your all; give it some heart! Keep things Honest, Exact, Authentic, Realistic and Timely.

HEART Goals are set with all the above in mind. They are honest and true to you, they not for anyone else, they are your goals, what you want in your life! 

The goals are exact and have steps and stages along the way. They keep you on top of your progress to your personal goal finish line! 

They are authentic to you and they are based on your current priorities, centre around your “core values”. They are not based on what you think you should be doing but what you want to do! 

These sort of goals need to be realistic and work in harmony with your life commitments, which mean it will all work together in forming a new improved lifestyle. 

Like every good goal they are measured by steps and have specific timeframes, which all have the end game in-site and where you want to be!

Nothing beats that moment “I did it!”

It’s a great idea to have a way to log your stages/steps visually and monitor progress it’s great to show all your doing and have done so far.

I love using note books, pictures and electronic logs of all the stages of the goal and look back every time I feel deflated along the way for a “motivation muscle”

It’s important to remember where you started is just as important as the end; it’s what got you there in the first place! 

Identity, life coaching, goal setting, motivation, Self development, Uncategorized, Visuals for goals results and motivation

Your centre it’s so important…

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It’s What keeps you rotating….

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Try imaging your life in the form of a circle, visualise a Ferris-wheel metaphorically speaking. The centre mechanism is what powers the whole motor to make wheel move round!  The centre is made up of different mechanisms which in this metaphor represents your core values, life priorities, principles, morals and beliefs (basically your centre).  All of these keep you being you!  The centre fuels us and motivates our life and as a results gives us drive to set aims, ambitions and goals (moves the wheel).

The centre is so important, it’s important to keep it strong, grounded and functional.  Anything that works in harmony with your core personality fundamentals is going to do positive things for you and drive things forward and keep your life moving in the right direction.  Thus allow a harmonious rotation (hence visualising the Ferris-wheel ), positivity feeds off positivity!

In personal development coaching it is important to look at all our clients fundamental building blocks, their core values and help them base their goal setting around these.  We use a number of techniques to do so.  

 

For more information, or to find out about our coaching packages please feel free to email us on; brainbiscuits@outlook.com

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2020 make it your Year!!

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The new year is almost here and it’s the perfect opportunity to make it the “you year”; find out who you want to be and make it happen!

This new year make every step count; remember goals don’t have to be too Big to be as equally important!

Remember perseverance also shows your really invested and truly want what your aiming for rather than “I should be doing this but don’t really want to”.

Keep the path true to you!

Keeping visuals on your “you year” to motivate you. Help from photos or that item of clothing you want to wear to identify yourself. You might want to have words to help describe you; such as active, healthy, happy.

Success step examples might be;

Keep a diary, have a tick-off chart for each day you did what you set out to do;

An object such as, “That dress or suit” hanging up you want to fit again and feel the best you can be;

That fun dance class that doesn’t feel like exercise but is helping you be more active;

The walk or hike with friends, which means your socialising and being active all in one go;

Have a list of new things to try, projects you want to do round the house to make you feel productive and organised.

Keep this new year fun and interesting, try new things, new activities and visit places you haven’t before, keep things motivational and moving throughout 2019!

Remember something that challenges you positively both mentally and physically is important as it links in your mind and body healthy.

Surround yourself with people that boost you to want to succeed and feel good about who you are. Take part in activities that motivate you and always have something that are also just for you “me time”

Create a list of days out for when you have free time so your ready and prepared to max the use of this time and go and do something positive and planed; such as walks in parks/gardens you may you have annual access to and surrounded yourself in some good “old free fresh air” in natural surroundings of the great outdoors.

Another really good tip is, when your in a good place ask yourself what helps you on the days where you motivation slips a little, then make note of the “go-to’s” that spur you on!

When looking at the new year 2020, remind yourself of all the steps you have already taken to get to where you are!

I love when a new year comes around and letting go of what has been and cant be changed and looking ahead at the new beginning ahead.

My diary has a clear page and a fresh start! So when it comes to the new year I have realistic but motivational goals for myself and I can’t wait.

I work out what I want to focus on, what will make me happy and narrow it down to 4 areas of my life right now and what small steps I can make in the right direction in each.

I wish you all a happy healthy “You” year 2020!