This Christmas don’t forget to make time for you and look after your mental health. If your someone who needs routine or to maintain some elements of your life to keep yourself in check then do just that keep up those strategies.
Don’t lose sight of what you normally would do in a normal week to balance out how you cope with all the juggling of day to day life.
Recognise when you feel yourself slipping a little and make it a priority to help yourself balance out again. Don’t leave it to get worse.
Make sure you have a moment to yourself for yourself. It’s good to process the day and anything on your mind and acknowledge those thoughts.This in hand will also help you to prevent from bottling it all up. Bottling things up can only lead at some point to an explosion. Explosion of emotion, fear, Self sabotage or feeling overwhelm because you haven’t allowed yourself time, time to process and think through your feelings and thoughts.
Remember it’s just as important to exercise your mind as it is your body.
Wishing your all a very Merry Mental health this Christmas.
It’s that time of the year when Christmas is around the corner and I feel it’s important to make sure you ask yourself; Is any of my Christmas planning filled with things that I want ? Does the planning reflect What is my ideal Christmas? What am I allowed to do around restrictions in place?
This time of year can come with so much pressure because we all put ourselves under pressure for everything to be “perfect”
Make sure you don’t use a lot of your energy on things that don’t promote your happiness nor do things that may add extra financial pressure.
Christmas really is a mixed bag when it comes to emotions too, ether it may be due to past experiences or loss of persons or a change in personal circumstances. Christmas is different for everyone.
This time of year is also typically when our routine goes out the Window and as nice as it is to have days off from the norm, I find this impacts me. If you need routine or notice if you don’t have routine that you struggle with the change of pace, just make sure you keep some of the structure you personally need. For me I need to still clear my head and push myself physically, so I have to stick to strategies that allow me to do this, for me this is my running, and Exercise, I need routine over the festive holidays to keep me on track.
A tip of survival is to avoid a stressful Christmas and just remind yourself to consider your own feelings on things; what matters and what really does not matter …. such as perfection!
Spend your time wisely, and try not to put pressure on yourself, it’s ok if it’s not the perfect Christmas you had in your mind. If things are fun and make you happy and you get to surround yourself with those who matter to you then isn’t that a success in itself?
This year I am trying to aim for the following steps and tasks for myself;
1,Go with the flow days, were I go with how I feel and enjoy the lack of pressure and expectations I put on myself.
2,Social days with those who make me feel happy, uplifted and good.l
3,Days to be productive, to get those things done that I didn’t get a chance to until now, and want to have done ahead of the new year.
4,Fresh air outdoors days where we can just get outside on a crisp winter day and enjoy ourselves.
5,have Creative days, it’s important to feed your creativity and if you want to make something or bake or attempt something new just do it!
6, If you find your mind has a few thoughts swimming around about the near future or for the new year etc try to make the time to acknowledge what you are thinking about, make time to write them down. Following on form this….
7, Allow Forward thinking time, It’s good to ask yourself;
•What do I want for 2022?
•What do I want to do in 2022?
See what come to mind. Get it down on paper it’s more likely to be something you commit to if you see it written it comes to life.
8, It’s good to also be reflective and learn from 2021 what you enjoyed, didn’t enjoy and what you have learnt from these things. Ask yourself if they present again Can you approach things differently, can you change these things, again what do you want and how do you feel?
9, it’s good to ask yourself,what where my memorable happy times of 2021? reflect back at the year’s highlights, whenever possible use visuals such as photos, Keepsakes etc things that made you feel happy and what was it about this moment and memory, can it be recreated for example ‘photo of a lovely place you walked with friends why not plan more walks and dates to do this again, make it part of a life style for 2022.
10, Give yourself time, the gift of time to sit down for a moment and listen to your thoughts and feelings; find your creative space, your pause moment and let things come to you that need to be considered, process then and write down any questions and goals they set.
Remember the past has happened and can’t be changed but you can be the change you need to make your Christmas and new year 2022 yours!
With autumn well and truly here, it’s a season full of change and I use it as a season to prep for the winter and enjoy all the wonderful inspiration autumn has to offer. It’s a great time to declutter, forget spring cleaning enjoy “Autumn Organising”.
This time of year, I like to make changes to my living environment as I know over the coming weeks I will spend more time indoors as winter approaches. I like to change items in my living space as it creates a new mood and therefore a new energy in my home. My living room is the heart of my home so I always focus on this space and of course my bedroom. Things I aim for is looking at soft lighting as this keeps me feeling positive in the darker days as unfortunately unlike summer there isn’t long amounts of natural light so this is important to me and of course colour, I tend to change colours in my home once for spring/summer and then autumn/winter, choosing colours you are drawn to is so important. Right now, I am drawn to a cosy soft grey and warm autumn pink. For my living space. I like to change my throws, cushions, flowers and try to minimise things ahead of Christmas. This also could be items you can change, update, up-cycle or find on-line with little to no cost.
Autumn for me can affect my mood I notice now that I start off feeling a little flat when October approaches. However interestingly, Autumn tends to be a great season for me personally to focus. Autumn for me has a pattern I notice where anything I set out todo goal setting wise works. It’s important to work out if you have a season which you are at your best! Make a mental log of what season works best for you, this is a great tool and should be used when planning something that needs lot of focus and motivation, as this is when you’re at your optimum peak of positive mindset!
My Personal Autumn must dos are;
1, Take a bag and fill it with anything in your house you feel you’re ready to move on from, no-longer wear,use or need. Fill the bag and send it off to your local charity shop collection bags that come through the post or find out what food banks etc in the area are accepting at this time.
2, Try a new recipe and make something hearty to enjoy. I personally love using a slow cooker this time of year for seasonal vegetable stews, soups and dishes.
3, Pick a space in your home such as an area your drawn to and want to change. Try quick go-to changes first for example if it’s the sofa in your living room change the cushions and throw and see if it makes you feel uplifted or any different feeling to the space, more cosy, calm etc. Put up new photos and pictures that inspire the changes and new things going on in life right now, positive Visuals are great!
4, Pick a new scent, try a new perfume for you, a candle for your home, I went with an Autumn scented candle, lots of Sandalwood, Amber and burnt Orange to bring the crisp Autumn feeling in the home!
5, Have a go-to basket for inspiration and when you’re feeling inspired to do something like goal set, list right, plan-things or get creative. Have things in the basket like notebooks, pens, books, craft projects you want to do this season. This positive pod,means they are all conveniently ready for you, prep again is key!
6, With the darker night’s drawing in, I like to review my exercise routine, either get equipped for running in the dark or make routine changes and try some new remember winter creeps up on you so plan your new exercise routine now. Remember with exercise preparation is key!
7, This time of year can get expensive so maybe look at any positive changes that you can make to your shopping and outgoings, sometimes being organised with homemade lunches, prepared meals from scratch not only healthier but cost affective to, these things can really help make a positive spin on the pennies
8, Have list of things you want to go and do this season, step outside the comfort zone and do something that challenges you in a positive way, from on line zoom classes, to on-line learning, reading that book, visiting new outdoor spaces or trying a new hobby or exercise, go for it!
9, Go through your kitchen cupboards/pantry and see what you have that’s in date, but you won’t really use that you could give to your local food bank most super markets now have a trolley at the front you can give items to. You could even get some extra bits to give, I like to get pasta to add to my items I donate.
10, This is one of my favourites, get your diary full of social catch ups with all your friends, it’s so important to keep connected especially with people who make you happy! Organise face time or zoom catch ups outdoor walk meet ups,social distancing of course.
11, Something you might want to do is set a goal that can be complete between now and Christmas or winter ask yourself,
Q: By Christmas I would like to (blank)
Fill this answer in with something you would like to achieve in these time frames.
12, I like to go through my clothing and make a capsule wardrobe (collection of a few essential items) and put a few full out fits together that I want to wear and that make me feel positive. It’s fun to sometimes get ideas for AW21 fashion, hair, accessories and makeup for inspirations.
Mental health awareness week has fallen at a time where many of us are in a form of lockdown or just starting to come out of it!
This is a time where we all will feel a change in our mental health, wether we are fully aware of it or not. It’s a time to be kind to ourselves and listen to our needs especially if we feel we need support, space or some me time.
We all have mental health just as we have physical health however, it is not always something we look at regularly supporting and training, or exercising and reviewing. It would be wonderful to think we soon will be in a world where we could openly ask each other ” how you feeling today and how’s your mind”, without it being uncomfortable.
We all have those moments in life where things can cause us to feel lower in our mood. This often affects our mental health. Times of this “low mood “ or any ongoing sadness can happen to any of us at any time, feeling as if it comes upon us without any warning. It is important to recognise your own personal triggers. It’s important to ask yourself
1,what are my triggers?
2,What sends my stress levels over the edge?
3, Is there any changes you can make to help you manage these things?
4, what helps you to keep going when you feel like this?
The triggers could be anything, such as a memorable date, topics you are sensitive to and don’t want to face yet, family, relationships, self-limiting beliefs, traumas, life events, medical reasons, life pressure, public speaking, anything! It is so important to take the time to look at any trigger patterning you have.
By looking at triggers you can possibly unlock a resilience strategy for yourself that just might help you cope better when you are in need.
Emotional stress can be really overwhelming, it can impact both your physical and mental state. Strategies to support your resilience can work wonders in helping you through this time, along with of course any support groups, professional outreach etc available to you.
Examples of resilience you can use when this happens are things such as supportive building blocks to help manage your stress levels. Some of mine are below:
• When life is busy I have to make sure I have me time
• Personal head space-time, walk, read, chill out somewhere away from everything to just clear your mind (a pause moment)
• Something that is physical such as sport; for me my main choice of activity to spend my “me” time on is running
• Something that makes you feel a sense of belonging such as socialising with the right community
• Things I enjoy, things that make me happy, as happiness is so important! Such as hobbies (Creative Diet)
• Try to goal set my activities into my weekly plans, looking at how I can review and improve and identify the priorities I have. These keep me on track and both my physical and mental health are in better shape for it (Muscle Motivation)
• Predict my stress triggers. When I know something is coming up that is likely to cause stress good planning is key. I look at what I can do to manage it as best I can, and what best supports me
• Make sure you tell someone. If I am worried about things or stressed, just saying things out loud to someone can make a huge difference as you then own your true feelings
• Choose to hang out with people on your level. Someone you can text, call, meet and have that support with
• I ensure I take regular pause moments; so important!
• Even when you don’t feel like it connect with the world daily so you don’t become withdrawn.
Remember you are often not alone with these feelings and it is so important to tell someone. Don’t suffer in silence, it will only get worse.
Tips to keep you feeling good mentally and physically when on holiday or annual leave this spring.
1) Routine, If you find routine is what keeps you feeling positive and well then keep up a routine the best way can when on holiday. From your eating times, sleep habits, to your workouts routines. You can always adapt slightly so everyday instead of going for say your morning run, you do a morning alternative exercise or movement but that you get that same output with you physically energy expenditure.
2) Keep your subconscious thinking when it comes to eating and drinking decide what you want to do and don’t want to do! Make sure you don’t just consume and have things to please others, if you don’t want to drink or eat certain foods don’t! If you do then this is also fine because your decisions come from you, not from pleasing others. You no how much work you have put in to get to where you are and how much time and will power that has taken, so your the one who is best to make the decisions not the voice of others.
3) Take mental, physical and well-being breaks from “your normal”allowing you to relax, recover and recenter, when on leave.
4) If going away, Take a note book and pen with you, write down anything that comes to mind when Away from your normal environment. You may find you have a lot of things come to mind and you can jot them down, revisit them when you want if you want! when were In a new environment and especially at a relaxed state of mind, we tend to be able to connect with ourselves more, are inner thoughts and feelings and have time to actually hear them.
5) Make sure you do things that bring you joy, make you laugh and Have fun! Capture and make memories, to keep your happiness topped up after the break finishes, these things will boost you when you return to normal. The memories will be great to look back on after and motivate you to have more time with the right people, doing things you love and make you happy!
6) Give yourself a moment away from everyone and every thing just to have a quick check in with yourself and recenter. You can check how your feeling especially if you are someone who has anxieties for example when having any changes such as a long drive or travel to somewhere new. Just a moment to be clam and collect your thoughts.
7) Take the opportunity to use your time doing things you enjoy and maybe something new to! take that new book, a craft project, that new workout routine, that recipe you have wanted to try. Doing something creative promotes positivity because there are normally visible results then and there. So you have a feeling and sense of achievement.
8) Try to alter your sleep habits where you maybe get a bit more if you are normally a bit sleep deprived when in your normal routine, top up some that you have missed if can. Feeling rested and revived will always be rewarding.
9) Fresh air and walk’s, try to add them in regularly when off, they are so good for the mind and getting your steps in for the day.
10) Plan some things you would like to get done this holiday, things that you feel will make a difference to your life, home etc from a declutter, painting, fixing or finishing things in your home that are bothering you. This will always make you feel good having that thing finished.
11) Exercise and movement, keep this up this will keep you upbeat and releasing the Endorphins you need, it will keep your mind set well for the holidays.
12)Enjoy yourself! Do what you want when you want how you want, make the holiday yours.